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12 Oct 2009

SISTER INLAW
HI

i have a sister inlaw that acts asif she is her brothers wife and recently we had an argument about where we want to live and she is not pleased with our decision. She is always interfering. I dont like her she is a bitter person to know.She has no real friends.She is very intelligent and insults me when i dont know what she is talking about infront of my husband.how can i deal with this bcos my husband is just not worried.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Obviously you need to discuss this calmly with your husband --- how does he feel about this ? Is he really not at all woried by the behaviour you decribe ? Remind him that he is marired to you and not to her, and that it would be good for your marriage to move somewhere where it is inconvenient for her to visit or to continue interfering.
Remembering Kristen's excellent quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, whose husband was unfaithful to her, recognize how your SIL both IS inferior ( as is everyone who feels the need to put other people down ) and must feel that way, such that she feels so anxious to try to make others seem ledss than her. Deny her the pleasure she seeks by not allowing her to make you feel bad, and treating her comments as though they were just tiresome, or bad jokes, and even ignore themmcompletely where this is possible.
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