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15 Jan 2004

slutty 2004
hi i am 18 years old and in arelationship with a 26 year old guy, we've been together for about 7 months and have had sex twice already, i cant seem to think that we did too soon, but unlike my ex boyfriends- he doesnt want me in a sexual way, he also just likes to hang out, my problem is that he only sees me when he wants to and not when i would like to, i mean if we are in a relationship, it should be 50/50 right? so anyway the thing is i used to be bulemic and i am back to it BIG TIME, he doesnt know this but i have slept with 4 guys and thats why i do it, i feel like a slut and throwing up just makes me feel a whole lot better, suicide has crossed my mind but i dont know. please help.!!!
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Dodo,
Aren't we lacking a bit of realistic perspective here ? You're considering sicide because this guy doesn't greatly want you sexually, at this specific stage in our relationship ? You can't have a satisfactory loving relationship with anyone else, until you at least like yourself ; and you can't have a satisfying sexual relationship until you can be comfortable enough with yourself and your opwn sexuality not to be driven and compulsive about it. And if you're into Bulimia "BIG TIME" you'd be too involved with matters of Control, food, weight, and vomiting, to have a mutually satisfying relationship with anyone -YET. Surely it's clear, you urgently need to see a psychiatrist to work with expert help to clear up the bulimia, to achieve a way of life with more ordinary and dep pleasures than just throwing up ; and in counselling to clarify all these messy issues about your relationship with yourself, so you can happilly enjoy relationships with others. It can be achieved, but don't work on it all on your own.
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