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24 Jul 2006

So Frustrated
hi again

i think the main reason i am so worried about bobby and the babies is that im frustrated in general.

My mom just called and asked me to please go and pick up somethings for her, she gave me a shopping list!! the worst part is she is borrowing this money from me. I asked her if she would like me to pick her up so she can come with me and she said no. so i must just be the delivery person.

we were supposed to be having a function on thursday but one manager cant make it so i have to reorganise the whole funtion to accomodate for this. I have postponed this function 4 times!!

The we get the approval on our house and i call my hubby ecstatically to tell him only to hear he doesnt want ot go through this certain bank and he will only take it if its this and if its that and he SO burst my bubble and we had a fight yesterday and he says we have to talk about the car and the housekeping and money and .....

i know where this is leading. he wants me to sell my car. I love my car. the car is the one thing in this world that i own. ITS MINE its paid for and it only belongs to me. he wants us to sell my car to buy a new car that we would have to pay off and that makes no sense to me!!! my car is paid for already. and dont get me started on housekeeping. I am the only one who cleans my house. He offered to help once and it took us 8 hours to clean 4 rooms!! He made more mess than he cleanined and it ended in a big argument, so now when he offers i just say NO!!!!!

and as for money.. what he makes is his what i make is mine, why change that?? aslong as we are both contributing to house hold goods equally whats the problem??

I think im going insane, my mood is so bad my eye is twitching and my hands are shaking... i was so happy this morning and now im so frustrated
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Can't you simply tell your mom you're not available as a delivery-person, and also can't afford to pay for all her shopping ? And as for hubbie, if people expec you to do all the work on a project, they can't afod to be so fussy about the sort of solution they want ( at least the guys postponing things at work are presumably paying you !). And you're right --- the car is YOURS, and being fully paid off will remain available for you to use. If he ants to change the arangements as to how you both share expenses, he needs to negotiate that with you, and with good reason. Why deprive you of the car you have, to buy another you'll both have to pay for ? And whose car would that thenh be ? And who would have main use of it ? You're not going insance, of course, just getting frustrated and angry, with some reason.
Why not tell mom it won't be at all convenient for you to do what she asked for --- that you could only just spare the time to take HER out for HER to do her shopping, and then pick her up later to take her home ?
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