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02 Apr 2007

Son & Boyfriend- How to introduce them?
How do I introduce my eleven year old son to my fiance? I've known this guy for three years now and we are planning to get married next year. So last year my son was with me and the boyfriend came to see me, I said to him he is my friend because I didn't know how to tell him. So he asked me again this weekend because he called him. I told him he should call him unclecoz he older than him. My friends I shouldn't expose him to my man at the first place. So my question is how should I tell him about my relationship? How long sholud I wait to introduce him to my man?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

For Pete's sake, if you nhave ANY idea of marrying this guy, your son needs to know who he is, what sort of relationship you have, and to have LOTS of time to get to know and like him. Why on earth try to keep this a secret for so long ? I agree with RMC and Maria. DO things together. If the boy is in boarding school, all the more reason to get him able to know the guy asap, and on every opportunity that arises. The degree of jealousy is normal enough, but will be exaggerated by the feeling that something underhand is going on, rather than by openness. And emphasize that he will always be your son and always be loved as much.
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