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10 Mar 2004

Space or no Space
Hi, i been with a woman for a couple of months since shes been seperated. We have plenty of love for each other, but recently our relationship has been really strained. She feels guilty that we got together so quickly and that we've moved so fast. I suggested to her that we take a step back and become friends untill shes finds herself. This meaning moving out aswell to find my own place. I'm afraid that by me giving her space i'll lose her. It also hurts to know that she agrees with the idea of becoming friends untill she finds herself. How should i handle this, feeling a bit low right now. Hope its the right thing. Thanks
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Anon,
Lets see what other readers suggest. To me, it sounds as if you are being mature and seisible in recognizing that relationships formed too rapidly on the rebound from a broken previous relationship, often fail. Presumably she has agreed with you about moving back or sideways to a friendship and giving her space in which to recover from the separation -- because you're probably right ? yes, you might lose her --- but if you do, it would be because you never had her, and because the relationship wasn't trul viable in the first place. More probably, you'll each be able to keep friendly contact, let her heal, and then re-approach a deeper relationship, less hastily. QWith relationships, it's more important to get it right than to get it quick
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