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29 Jun 2005

Sperm Donar
I have a problem with the woman who calls herself my bf´s friend. My bf just told me that she asked him to be her sperm donar cos she wants a child..so she needs him to donate his sperms and there will be no strings attached... My bf told him to talk to me..and she came to me with this story ,, and she was explaining that she only wants him to be a sperm donar nothing more and I said why him she said because they have been friends since childhood, and she needs a sperms from some1 she knows and trusted etc... I am person who really fails to pretend especially when i´m not liking something ... so I told her straight ..No my bf won´t be your sperm donar,, so find another person,, cos I don´t feel comfortable with the idea... I politely asked her to close the subject... And now she hates me she bad mouths me... and i am getting some very strenghtning sms 4rm anonymous on my fon... about my relatioship with bf.... I know this was suppose to be my bf dicision and I took a stand cos i just hated the idea and i faile to pretend....... Am i being selfish here,,, i mean what would you say a woman asking your bf for sperms....
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

There are ALWAYS strings attached. If you and he were hppy about this, you'd need a good legal opinion to propduce a document for both of them to sign to ensure that there WERE no strings whatsoever attached. and there could still easily be psychological strings, with him, and you, knowing that this child was his. You are prefectly reasonable in not liking the idea, and she has no business being spiteful to you for discouraging the idea. You obviously need to discuss this far more with your bf, to be sure you are both agreed on this. If you think she is sending you nasty messages on your cellphone, have your number changed.
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