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22 Dec 2004

strip clubs & porn mags
Am i wrong for not wanting my boyfriend exposed to the following:

1. Strip clubs
2. Porn mags
3. phone backgrounds of nake girls

by the sounds of things i am the only girl that feels insulted by the above.

please help am i right or wrong?
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CyberShrink
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01 Jan 0001

Right or wrong aren't generally shrink's terms, they're moral assessments, and people's standards vary, and socieitie's views of this change. I'm sure you're not the only girl to feel insulted or upset by such things. As Anon says, much depends on the extent of his involvement. If he reads nothing but porn mags, spends every night at a strip club, then he's surely overdoing it. As an occasional event, they're not likely to do any harm ( less than going to the pub and drinking several times a week).
Check out the Archives of this Forum, as various aspects of this topic have been discussed many times before.
And it seems more mysterious if we insist on seeing sex as totally different from any other appetite or interest. Why do so many women adore watching soap operas, romantic films, and reading romance novels --- though they have a husband, even a romantic husband ? Why do so many people read food magazines and cook books, even if they never cook such elaborate recipes nor eat such dishes ? Why do so many people spend so many hours a week sitting in front of the TV watching sports they never even try to play ?
And NEVER feel that you're not good enough --- even if he looks at the others, it's you he keeps coming back to --- doesn't that say something rather important ?
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