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03 Apr 2006

Strong feelings for an my Cousins ex-husband
I know this is soooo wrong but my cousin has been divorced for the past 3 years and myself only last year. Since my divorce the friendship btween myself and the cousins ex has developed so must in away we speak almost everyday, about all and no one knows about this except the two of us.

We started speaking 9 months ago, and I can tell you we both have feelign for each other, On friday we went out just the two of us and we had so much fun, that I even forgot that he is my cousins ex. This morning when I thank him for the woderful time on friday he said the is still more nicer times to come if I can allow him.

From me I know this is not right but oh this gut is such a good, caring and loving person. And the divorce was brought about by my cousin, she had relationships and they ended up divorce.

What do I do I know I love this man. do I tell him, wait for him to make a move.

The thing is that I have seen a lot of ladies trying to have him and he is not interested, I have been to his parents house 3 time and when I am there his sisters and parent will say hey, our brouther should have just married you, you are so compatible.

I am also worried about my cousin, family should there be a relationship, what will she think of this.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

There doesn't seem to be any firm code of etiquette or behaviour here, but surely 3 years after the divorce, a counsin
s Ex should be allowed to be your friend. Maybe tactless on your side, but not forbidden. Do you really love him ? or Like him. ? Are you just guesing how your cousin would feel,about this, or have you discussed it gently with her ?
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