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10 Apr 2006

suggestive sms's
Hi all. CS, I know you hate sms / cell phone issues, but I have this problem that is worrying me. I have been going out with my current b/f for 8 months. Things are going well for us, but then I only see him over the weekends. However, over the past weekend I decided to snoop on his cell phone and found very suggestive sms’s to his ex g/f whom he stayed with for a year. He initiated them. Now I am thinking, aren’t I good enough for him in the sack??

I don’t know what to do as he says he loves me and I can’t say anything to him about these sms’s because I should not have been snooping in the first place. Should I confront him or just leave it. I know that this is just sexual banter and I know that sex does not equal love, but is this emotional cheating??
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, now you're hating an SMS issue, too ! Snoppers rarely find anything that make them happy. This probably hasn't got anything to do with your goodness in the sack, but it does suggest that he is not finished with his ex, and is being at least emotionally unfaithful to you. Your problem is that you have difficulty raising this with him, wiothout revealing that you have been snooping. IT is emotional cheating. If you dont discuss it with him, you will grow incrasingly concerned about it ; if you do, be careful that he is likely to try to make the entire discussion focus on your snooping rather than on what he has been doing.
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