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30 Jul 2008

Temper Tantrums
Today I feel like such a bad parent not knowing how to handle my 15 month old daughter. After attending the funeral of precious Anri I feel that I should not be so hard on her but at the same time …  (let me first tell the situation).

My daughter is a very strong will redhead. I know every one is going to say, their LO is also like this, BUT even her schools says that she is very, very bad and that they haven’  t seen a child so strong willed in their lives.

She throws temper tantrums …  when she does not get her way …  I have done one of two things to handle this …  the one it totally ignore her –  this can go on for quite a while –  half and hour and she hurts herself badly in the process –  hitting her head against any hard object.

The second way that I handle it sometimes is picking her up and holding her tight and not letting her go even is she is hitting en slapping me until after normally 30 minutes she will become peaceful en lie with her head on my shoulder …  this happened last night again …  she wanted to feed herself creamed spinach and I gave her another bowl with spoon to “  play”  with but she wanted the spinach bowl –  I told her no and then she slapped my in my face several times –  then I took her and held her till she became peaceful and calm (30 minutes later) –  this feels so cruel to me –  BUT I REALLY don’  t know how to handle the situations anymore.

My last resort would be to see someone professional if the problem does not get any better.

I love my LO dearly and only wants the best for her ... her strong will is going to get her in big trouble on day if she does not know how to deal with it - or am I unrealistic? And she hurts herself if I do not give attention which is very scary for me.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Why not take her to see a child psychologist ( the school may be able to reccomend a good one ) for assessment and advice on how to introduce better discipline and helping her to learn that none of us get everything we want. 15 months is rather young for this sort of problem to arise. And the head-banging and self-injury is not something one can ignore. Her slapping you is odd, too ; and for a tantrum to last 30 minutes when you restrain her, is also more than one would expect.
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