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15 Jan 2004

temptation in public bathrooms
After visiting a few Joburg male public bathrooms, I (20) noticed peepholes between cubicles. I was shocked at first and someone even stuck their penis through such a hole before and I just walked out. The problem these days is that I constantly visit male bathrooms to experience this again and believe me-there is no shortage thereof. I had numerous peepshows and mutual masturbation sessions in such situations. My question is “Am I losing my values” as this is something I’d never imagine myself doing? Is this a normal practice and is it criminal? I tried to stop it before but the temptation to see what’s lurking on the other side always gets the better of me…
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01 Jan 0001

Firstly, ignore the hate-filled messages of the truly hopeless and prejudiced. Let them stew in their own juices.
Meanwhile, though, it sounds as if you might be gay ( which is normal though often inconvenient ), and you might like with a gay-friendly counsellor, to think through your interests and plans for life.
What you specifically describe is probably illegal, though one hopes the police have better things to do with regard to far more damaging crimes, than to waste their time pursuing such small things. But it isn't healthy, exposing you to STD and HIV, and to meeting people like 666 and his pals, who can turn to severe violence and can seek out such places and people in a pathetic attempt to prove what they imagine might be their manliness.
Are you losing your values ? Apparently so, from what you say, though it depends on what your values are.
If you have led a rather celibate and frustrated life up to now, you may becoming unhelpfully and unhealthily obsessed with this venue and this way of making sexual contact with others, and this is not a good idea. Also, this form of anonymous sex is not only accompanied by physical health dangers, but it divorces sexual contact from affection, let alone love, and may make it harder, rather than easier, for you to form satisfying long-term genuine relationships with other people.
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