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27 Jun 2011

terrible emptyness
I was in this relationship with this guy. he was at the point of leaving his wife and would have moved in with me. Then she called to say the child of 14 is giving trouble.he left that saturday and then the monday when i call he said his mother and family say he must give his marraige a chance. I did not see him for 2 weeks as I was angry and last thursday I saw him again. we had sex but it was very quick. he is moving in with his wife and child to a flat.they use to stay with his parents in laws. I dont know what to think of it. the one moment he is warm and the next moment he is like he want to distant me. I asked him about it and he just say he is busy. He also told me they had a huge fight last weekend but he dont want to give me hope. He is confusing me and i feel very empty and terrible.he is 42 years old and am i 43
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

"At the point of" is irrelevant. Do NOT get involved with married men, whatever they may say is he state of their marriage. You know its wrong, and could be vert hurtful to his wife and children. Of course he should give his marriage a chance, maybe see a marriage counsellor with his wife, rather than givin up and sliding into an affair.
COntinuing the affair with you, and maintaining a sexual affair with you especially, will not in any way help sourt out his marriage problems. And, as you already know he is happy to cheat on the woman in his life, you know what you can expect in any relationship he may have with you.
You are 42 - isn't it time you grew up and recognized that having secret affairs with married men and fathers, is not something a self-respecting woman would do ? Can't you find unattached man friends of your own ?
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