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20 Apr 2006

The parents & the friends
BF gave me a surprise visit over the easter weekend. Anad it was awesome. He is speaking and making hints more and more in the line of someday taking things to the next level - that is when he has completed his studies ext ext.

We had a bit of a argument on Sunday night where he said some of his friends were under the opinion that I am not the right girl for him, and that his parents were sceptical of our relationship.

Being sceptical is understanding - my parents were to. A long distance relationship does is a huge challenge - but one me and BF have been able to meet head on. And I get the feeling that they really do like me and see me as part of the family (sort of)

He has previously said that people think we are such a stunning couple, that the friends ext. like me. But with what he said about some of the friends not thinking I am the girl for him really really bothers me. He did say that the "people" concerned may not be feeling the same and that he would anycase want to make me the happiest lady on earth regardless.

But I am hurt by what he said. Maybe I am to sensitive, maybe he just said it in the heart of the moment - not really telling and giving me the right message.

BF have been single for about 2 years when we met and I also sometimes feel I am living in the shadow of his ex (that also might just be me - because she is never discussed infront of me). Although he always speaks about how wonderfull it is that he has found his soulmate and he is so happy that we have the same ideas of live and he always wanted to be with someone that shares his interests, believes ext.

Anyway - I am actually very happy and at peace. Just that what was said during this argument is bugging me. More than it shoud I think
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds. Blompot, as though you two still need to be doing a lot more talking. Maybe the long-distance effect, and the need to cram all the relationship tasks into a short time, delays resolving these issues. And things said hurriedly in an argument then tend to sit around and fester if you can't easilt continue and complete the necessary conversation
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