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12 Jul 2008

they don't deserve a baby
My brother and his long-time live-in girlfriend got pregnant by mistake and have a beautiful baby. The girlfriend is a very self-centered person and can't wait to offload the baby every time someone visits them or they visit someone else.My brother adores the baby but has a very demanding job with long hours every single day.The girlfriend went back to work halfway through her allocated paid maternity leave and the tiny baby is in a creche. Many friends and relatives have voiced their disapproval of this, but the couple see nothing wrong with it. I take my own fatherhood very seriously and my wife stays home the first year of our babies' lives, by choice, even though it is a financial burden.. I am just worried my brother's baby will grow up with poor emotional health and improper values, never mind al the germs and bad habits picked up at creche.. How does one get these parents to understand?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Adults are allowed to be folish, unless someone else, such as a child, is placed at risk. So this arangement may be less than the best imaginable, but is probably not specifically harmful. As fgor germs at creche, it's not clear, but some experts believe that some exposure to a wider range or orgdinary germs could stimulate the development of a child's immune system more than remaining in a miore sterile environment at home.
And yes, sadly, there are so many people who would be superb parents who can't conceive, and so many who will never manage to be even adequate parents who conceive too easily. I've often thought its a pity that our natural state isn't infertile, so that people would have to think carefully and take a Ceptive pill in order to become able to conceive.
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