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03 Dec 2004

Tired of living in her shadow
Hi everybody!

There is this girl that i've known for as long as i can remember and i've always lived in her shadow...
ever since we were kids, she's been the smarter one, the more responsible one, and prettier one.
i always end up dating guys that used to be crazy about her but she doesn't want, not because i hang around waiting for them but because they eventually meet me and it all comes out that they were in love with her...

one of the reasons i broke up with my ex is because he thaught she was the perfect girl... Until she made him realise that no one is perfect and decided he could be with me. i don't think i want to hear of how perfect my man thinks the girl he was crazy about is!

well, last night a group of girls went out to a bar and she was with us... i've never felt as insecure about myself as i do today... she just ruined my mood and my evening last night...
i have to be nice to her becoz we have a mutual friend who is very important to both of us...

how do i stop feeling this way about her or allow her to make me feel this way?
Please help
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Why choose to live your life in a constant state of comparison with someone else ? No point in being a second-rate Her, the aim is to find out how to be a first-rate You. Why not ignore her, and get on with your own life ?
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