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31 Jul 2008

to CP Mom - I hear you
i can identify with you - my boyfriend had a stroke after 3 months of dating and he has not gained his balance fully, each time he wakes up in the middle of the night, i have to get up as he sometimes falls and i have to lift him up - i feel so trapped, i want to get out but i can' t as i am afraid what people might think of me
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01 Jan 0001

OH boy, I know this territory so well. Much depends, perhaps on the nature of your preceding relationship. It must be in some ways more tough if you're in a not very strong or close relationship and then get, as it were, trapped by his sudden illness. Where it's your child or parent or long-term spouse, you have made a long-term committment "for better or worse, in sickness and in health", and one hardly thinks of NOT doing all that is needed, even if you regret what you have to miss out on. But in the siuation you describe, it doesn't sound as though the extent of the help he needs from you is all that great. And maybe if he had something like a Zimmer frame to help him keep his balance while walking, he'd manage better, and need less of your sleep time ?
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