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29 Sep 2009

To end it now or wait?
My Fiance recently changed.
She became very restless at night. Constantly kicking her legs and throwing her arms around. Very irritbale, always ready to snap at the slightest thing. She started working late more often. She never worked late, she is a hairdresser, they dont really have a crisis at the office. The 1st thing she did on those evenings when working late was rush to the shower.

Then when we go out, she would ignore me when we are with other people. Not look at me once when i talk and basicly pretend i am not even there. She also started withdrawing from my family. She always declines when we are invited for dinner with my parents or a braai etc.

So i started thinking she might be cheating but never said a word. I am convinced she did have something going with someone else... but the last week she went back to being her old self. Except, she still cannot sleep next to me, she pulls so far away i am suprised she hasnt fallen out of bed in her effort to keep the distance between us.

Do not know if it is my own insecurities but the above did happen so it is very confusing. If i ask her if she did cheat, then she wont tell the truth or at least i cannot believe her. Hmmm

How can i work past this nagging sensation that she is or was unfaithful
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, if she hasn't been cheating on you, she has been behaving oddly and it's hard to think of a different explanation. But only in discussion with her can you find out more. Try not to make it a confrontation or a single question, but talk about how peculiarly she has been behaving, and how you don't see any other explanation, but want to be able to understand her.
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