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10 Jul 2008

to leave or not?
hi all

well for the last few weeks, i have been thinking about leaving my gf.
i have been with her for over a year now and i thought things were going great! but in the last few weeks i have been thinking about life and stuff like that.

the reason i want to leave is because, she walks all over me.
i go shopping with her for hours, i eat where she wants to eat, go out when she goes out, dont drink and more, dont go out with my friends because she wants me to saty at home, but its ok for her to go out.
i do what ever she wants, when she wants and it has to be her way. if i do any thing for my self then she starts a fight saying that i'm going to leave her.

the other night i told her how i was feeling, she told me that the reason she wants things hre way is because with all her EX bf she always lost her self and did what ever they wanted.
i told her that she is doing the same to me! she then got really mad and told me that i'm crazy!

now i want to leave her but i dont know if i can, i love and a life without some how will not feel right.

do any of you knwow hat i can do?
leave or stay?

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

So, as a reaction to having "lost herself" with previous bf's, she now expects you to "lose yourself " for her ? Maybe not a great idea. If you can't negotiate a fair compromise between you, either consider ending the relationship, or see a relationship counsellor so as to work on the problems with a skilled referee !
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