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30 Jun 2005

To Male23
Hi there. I posted a while when there was a debate on premarital sex. My fiance and i had been together for 8 years (being staunch christians) and then did the deed - unplanned. This went on for a while. Then we would repent and stop.

But somehow, we gave into temptation when we didnt want to. I would cry myself to sleep because i felt/feel like a whore. Because i know why i stuck it out so long and then just went and threw it away. we are in the process of a celibacy vow, and i really hope we stick to it.

My question is this: I have been having a spell of bad luck. My fiance might lose his job, i am ceiling high in debt, my mom is suicidal, i cant get a better job, i dont know if we can afford the wedding, etc. Nothing wants to come right.

Do you think i am being punished? And i am feeling so despondent and angry, where are there passages to make me feel something again??

I feel emotionally and spiritually flat and dead. Like life cant get any worse.
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cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Youre not a whore, and you are not being punished, merely having a period of bad ,uck. If having sex led to such punishment, judging by what so many people get up to, we'd have daily earthquakes and disasters. get financial advice, maybe from your bank, to sort out your debts, and pay them off as efficiently as possible, without running up further debts. Male 23 and lady lee have answered at length and usefully, too.
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