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01 Feb 2008

TO see my cheating ex or not?
Hey All,

What do I do? My cheating ex, of a couple months, is gonna be at the same event that I may goto.

I don't want to goto the event because of her and her new b/f, the one whom she cheated on me with.

As I don't want anything to do with her / him. My question is, if I don't go, i'll appear weak / a wuss... or if I do go... i'll say some horrible things to her and to him...

I'm thinking towards not going as I don't want to see them. As just the thought of the two of them makes me sick...

My ex is a real b****t. And don't want to bring myself down to their level by seeing them

What do you guys think I should do?
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01 Jan 0001

You seem to have constructed an artificial choice between two highly unsatisfactory alternatives. For instance, you could go to the function and NOT say anything unpleasant to them ( disappoint them by ignoring them as far as practical, and being pleasant when contact is unavoidable ). You don't have to have "something to do with them" -- presumably the function has its own point, and you could go with a partner of your own choice.
SEEING them doesn't bring you down to their level --- behaving badly would do that.
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