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20 Feb 2004

To sensitive??
I find myself too intuitive around other people and can pick fairly easily if someone is in a bad or good mood for example. But my problem is that I seem to lack the ability to react to situations in a constructive way, or at all for that matter.Even with trained professionals (psychologists). I find it very difficult to feel safe or comfortable when I can sense that there is a problem on the other side. How is the best way to handle awkward or uncomfortable moments.Because in any enviroment where I feel uncomfortable I will stop myself from communicating freely and instead struggle in silence.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Delta, it sounds as if, among other things, you may be assuming that what is needed in these situations, is for you to say something specific, and that, struggling to think of whatever this might be, you freeze up, When in fact maybe what is needed is to relax, listen more, and see what else you can pick up.
And of course there are two phases in coming up with a useful interaction. Firstly one needs the phase you're good at --- to be able to see the situation for what it is, to recognize how the other person is feeling, etc. Then there's the phase where maybe a counsellor could help you to brush up your skills, where one has to select from a range of alternatives, the best way to respond to the situation one has recognized. Some folks can't even manage the first phase properly, and that's even more difficult than what you've experienced.
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