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30 Jun 2005

Too much flirting for my ego
Hello.

I have a problem I think most guys have... I love to flirt with other women yet I am married. I get a real kick out of it when they respond and have now found myself in trouble because all ths flirting is causing some women to respond with real advances and I have had to be strong to not give into their advances.. I bring this on to my self... You see the problem is that I would like to stop, but each woman I meet becomes like a challange to see how far I can get.

The only good thing is that I have never cheated on my wife physically or sexually but I am not starting to think about that too which is wrong.

I would like to figure out why I have the constant need and urge to do this instead of just loving my family and being satisfied when I have a great one? What should I do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

YOu know, I don't actually think that MOST guys love to flirt, at least not in any serious way, with any serious end in mind. What you're describing is more likely to be related to feeling insecure, and seeking reassurance from seeing women respond to your overtures. You sounds like you're sliding closer towards cheating. See a counsellor and focu on your own insecurities that have been leading you to seek this repeated reassurance, so that you can then become secure and confident, and not need to flitt, but can enjoy what you already are lucky enough to have. And re-read and think about Purples perceptive comments. Lola reminds us of one of the key tests --- it's only truly harmless if you wouldn't mind if your partner saw you doing it and if she also thought it harmless.
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