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20 Feb 2004

Troubled Relastionship
My man and i have been dating for a year and a few months now. Last Novemeber, i found out that he had an affair - with another MAN. I was distraught, but i stayed with him. He promised to sort this "attraction for men" out. He's gone for counselling etc. I still love him deeply, but i'm battling with trusting him again. Also, i'm going to the UK in April... My question is: How can you "learn" to trust someone again without being "pushy" or demanding on his time? Or asking him every 5 seconds what he's doing. And in this case, how do youtrust him around his male friends, when i'm not around? We have been sexually active whith each other and we both seem to enjoy it very much, but he doesn't seem open to talking about our sexual relastionship or open to new ideas on how to spice things up? Any advice on that issue? Thx. C
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Cee, maybe counselling would help you, too. Asking him every minute what he's doing doesn't safeguard anything, and can make you such a pain in the neck as to drive him away, rather than helping him to stay faithful.
Let's se what other readers think. How would he feel about your going with him to see his counsellor for one session, to work on issues affecting both of you ?
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