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17 Feb 2004

Hi, my bf (27) moved out few weeks ago, we are still together. He changed only his box no. of his tellephone acc., and there is this young woman (20) that he only met twice, it is his friends X girlfriend. She knows that we are together. There was a time that she sended him massages, untill the last time that she ask him to meet her somewhere in PTA she stays in Jhb her and her mother and father are coming through. I (26) stripped and asked him if I can send her a message back, and told her she must leave him allone because they arent really friends. And that I dont want her to phone him anymore. So she didnt for about 5 months. Untill 2 weeks ago her father was shot and died and so she phoned him to tell him. She phoned him on Saturday again to tell him about the funaral. She said that she needed someone to talk to that knows how it feels to lose a father. I am not happy with this she doesnt even know him that well it seems. I dont know who to not trust here is it him or her. Why does she keep on phoning him. I am so jalous I can rip her head off. Must I rather ask him to ask her not to phone him again because he is showing that he is maybe interisted in her. We are not married. I don't know what to do. I even want to check his phone account to see who he phone's. Help Please.
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01 Jan 0001

s, you don't make it clear why your bf moved out, but this does make it sound as if there could be problems between the two of you quite apart from anything related to this other woman.
Obviously, no third party like us out here can guess whether there is anything going on between them, or if you are perhaps getting into a froth of jealousy without needing to do so. Nothing except good communication and discussion between you and your bf can sort this type of problem out.
And there is the fact that apparently she is grieving the loss of a murdered father. Would it be practical for you to go to the funeral WITH your bf, so you can both express your condolences, but also to make it clear that your relationship is continuing and that he is not open for any further ongoing relationship with her ?
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