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20 Dec 2004

TRUST
I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 years now and its a serious relationship, we are considering moving in together next year. The problem is i can't seem to trust him. he has never cheated on me (i hope not) but its his reputation that bothers me. When we met and decided to take the relationship a step further we sat down and spoke about all the skeletons in our closets and I didnt think his past was so bad because i mean i have also made alot of mistakes. the problem is that to this day his friends and boss still make remarks such as "is this the same girl i met last time because you always have a new girlfriend" and "must i put her name on the invite because knowing you when the party comes you will have a new girl" and "shouldnt i rather put ******* & partner on the invite just in case".

This really bothers me because i dont think he was honest with me about his past and i am so scared he has been with more and slept with more girls than he told me. when i confront him about this he just says "Ive told you a hundred times i was popular and had alot of girlfriends".

I have considered speaking to a shrink here in my town but i really struggle trusting anybody and this is really hurting my relationship. should i move in with him or shouldnt i. when we met i must have deleted close on to 50 girls numbers from his phone. am i just another number on his phone?? his friends and collegues seem to think so. please help!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Why move in with a guy you don't trust ? Work on clarifying whether he is untrustworthy, in which case definitelyu don't move in with him ; or whether you are being excessively untrusting, in which case modify that trait before getting too close to anyone. Maybe his friends know him well and are being accurate ; maybe they're mainly teasing. Have you discussed this with him ? Confronting is not a useful method though, if you want to find out things ; chat is more productive. A celibate guy wouldn't have 50 girls numbers on his phone would he ?
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