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21 Dec 2004

Trusting a man......... very hard
We have been together for 4 yrs, i heared rumours that he cheats on me, before last year he got somebody else pregnant, i was very heart broken with time i thought i forgave him and got back together, till today i have not catch him with anybody but i still hear rumoured, its rumours because i did not see myself, that he still cheats on me, last week he paid lobola, i agreed we live in together and r planning to buy a house soon we already have a baby of 3yrs and r planning on having another one, i went for HIV test and am negative.

Now the problem is ever since he got the other girl pregnant i do not trust him anymore, i always want him by my side evertime when he goes out with friends i think to my self "is he really going with friends or is he going to see his girlfriend?" everything he says i really dont believe him, basically i dont trust him! the worst thing is every girl that i see around i simply ask my self "could u be one of his girlfriends? i know this is not healthy and he might have changed fo real, i dont want to loose him but dont want to always feell this way either.

Please help, every advice is welcome
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01 Jan 0001

Hello Lovey,
Personally, I doubt whether continuing relationships with someone so unfaithful and careless as to father a child with someone else, are a great idea. And Paul has said it perfectly. Trust is not a gift yougive to someone who wants it, it's something they have to earn. if the distrust is beginning to cause probl;ems for you, personally, some counselling might help
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