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05 Apr 2006

Ungentleman like behaviour
I just broke up from a 5year old relationship. Found out my g/f(whom i was intending to marry this year & having told her b4 the find out) was cheating. I wanted to know the reason why she was doing this ii was unfortunately dumped for invading in her personal calls which she made me to do bcos of her change of behaviour. The contract cellfone i took out for her in my name & i was the one paying the acc. The break up was not that nice as when we speak face2face we communicate very well. But when trying to talk to her on fone she then throws tantrums or shall i say she tells me that she has found a real man to take care of her etc. whith me being very upset i instead fight FIRE WITH FIRE.
I ended up calling her being drunk & i was swearing at her worst of all i called her a slut & told her did she want to make us a baby from another man which we have been strugling to get for all this years (I hapen to have a child with some one else this being b4 me & EX knew each other)
Well all in all i have decided to let it go following the LOVE TACTIC #21 "BE GREATFUL IN THE FACE OF REJECTION". The last time i spoke to her was the first week of March even though i miss her dearly. On this last call i had called to APOLOGIZE to her about the bad things i have said. she said she will not forgive i told her I do understand but it makes me glad that i have said my apologies.

My question is does she realy mean what she says i know i should not be that concerned but would not like to get badluck in my next relationship/s.
If you were in her shoes would you take my apology not necessary in terms of making up???????
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Wow, but today there have been an unusually large number of VERY LONG, albeit very interesting and complex questions ! Sounds like this nasty woman was bitter and resentful because she was caught out, and apparently she was trying to ignore the fact that she was being unfaithful and dishonest. You were the bigger person by apologising --- apparently she can't see any fault in anything she does, so you are very well rid of her. Nothing about this will give you bad luck in your next relationship(s) --- you can learn from this experience, and avoid similar problems in future. Why on earth would you want to make up with her ?
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