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30 Jan 2004

I am an aspiring actress and have been involved in various television, radio and film projects since I was in school. Last year I got the lead role in a musical which I was told would be very time consuming so I sacraficed many of the other things happenening in my life at the time. This musical was postponed twice and then cancelled after which I put myself through the slight humiliation of auditioning for the part again when it was rescheduled. Work is scarce and I thought I'd endure that because the end product would be worth it. We are supposed to stage this production April. We haven't even started rehearsals. I refuse to have my time so untterly wasted again and so have enrolled for dance classes where I know they have a yearly show so a performance is certain. Then the director of the play has the nerve to embarass me in public by speaking down to me about the other things I wish to persue. I feel she has no right to tell me what to do with my own time especially after she wasted so much of it last year. Performing is important to me I get so angry when people take advantage of us. This director happens to think she is the shit and on the last few occasions I have found myself being very rude to her (which is not usually in my nature) simply because of the way she expects us to jump when she snaps her fingers regardless of how unreliable, disorganised and unprofessional she as been without fail. Are my intense negative feelings towards her understandable or am I over-reacting? How can I control myself just so I can get through this show without ripping someones hair out?
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01 Jan 0001

Dear fedup,
similar frustrations occur in all other professions, and their are untalented and over-promoted people wasting other people's time in all works of life. I suppose your reaction would depend on the availability of alternative roles and jobs, and on the degree of importance and influence of this wretched woman. If she's in a position to ruin your career, then like many of us in similar situations, you may have to just breathe calmly and grit your teeth ( mind you, it's really hard to sing, in such a posture ) --- and put up with it --- and resolve that when in your turn you become someone more powerful in the profession, you will remember this and will make sure that you never do unto others as this woman is doing unto you. And go on like a trouper and perform better than she believes you to be capable of.
If she's less influential, you might want calmly and with poise, to point out that (a) your private time is your own to use exactly as you plase, and (b) as she wasted so much of your time previously due to her disorganization and the postponement of the production, she should especially not complain if you try to make fruitful use of your spare time now.
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