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31 Jul 2008

Un/reasonable
Hi

last year for my birthday I got nothing from my husband, his reason was that since we planning our wedding we cannot afford to buy each other birthday presents. I however bought him a gift for his and his birthday is couple of months after mine.
He however promised that this year will be different. Guess what this year I' m not getting anything either, not a present, not a romantic supper, nothing. His excuse this time that we just bought a house. He is not the kind of guy that will go out of his way to turn a boring night at home to a romantic candle lit one, so i know for sure that the simple things in life, i.e. a bubble bath, dinner that he cooked, or breakfast in bed I' m not going to get.

I' m so hurt by all of this and so jealous when a woman gets flowers or even if I see a couple holding hands.

I' ve drawn up my own conclusion that he simply doesnt love me and that he is just using me for a comfort zone.

Am I being unreasonable?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

OK, he's the guy you fell in love with enough to decide to marry him. And apparently he's just not the romantic type, and he IS the responsible type who worries about money matters, which is a valuable characteristic especially in these troubled times. He probably DOES love you, but his way of expressing it is by financially caring for you rather than in the more expressive and romantic ways you are seeking. Discuss this calmly with him, and consider seeing a marriage counsellor together, and this can be sorted out.
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