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18 Apr 2006

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Hi guys,
I'm not sure if you'll remember but a while back a asked for advise on my bf's relationship with his parents (over-involved mom, no relationship with dad). My bf then arranged to talk to both his parents regarding the current situation.

Well here's the feedback. They had a "family meeting" and all 3 of them agreed to try to work on their relationships and the way they're household is currently run.

Here's the good news: my bf's mom's birthday is on Friday and last night he said that he wants to take her out to dinner for her b-day. Then out of his own he said that he will invite his dad as well. Now this might not sound like much but in the past my bf and his mom would go out without his dad and not even ask him along. Now he wants to invite him, well maybe want is to positive a word, but he realises that his dad is part of their family. Anyway so atleast he will invite his dad along...

CS there's something I've been wondering about...is it normal to be dating for 5months and not have one fight? Yes he has his personal issues that "we" are working through, and yes we have had different oppinions and we have had to make compromises. But no fights! Now I've heard that they say that if you don't fight then you're not truly invested in your relationship...I know 5months is still a young relationship but would it be a problem if we don't fight? (I have to admit I feel a bit stupid asking this question)
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi Zanè, Congratulations to you all on the progress made so far --- I hope things can continue to improve.
ow, is it normal to date and not have a fight in 5 months ? Yes. Fighting isn't absolutely compulsory. and maybe he is both preoccupied with sorting out the parental problems, and also he may be learning something about interpersonal relations rom that process, to the benefit of his relationship with you.
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