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11 Apr 2006

vibrator and me
I broke up with my boyfriend for a year and in that year I was not seeing anyone. I decided to buy myself a vibrator. I kept it for 3 months investigating side effects nothing come up. I even asked about it here on this forum no one could think of any side effects. I started using it on my clitoris and the feeling was amazing beyond any of my sexual experiences. I kept using it for the next 8 months or so. Me and my boyfriend are now back together, I don to seem to be able to put it away, whenever he is not around I take it out.

Lately he told me my clitoris has changed shape, it use to be small now is wide and a bit big. He then asked me do I play with myself!! I was shocked and embarrassed I just stood there...with my mouth hanging.

I want to get rid of my vibrator but how do I get my clit to the usual shape/size. This is destroying me, I am now so conscious of myself during sex and this messes up my concentration.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Why don't you encourage your bf to get interested in clitoral stimulation --- he could be even more effective than a vibrator, if he is mature enough to recognize that sex isn't all about him feeling good, and intelligent enough to take an interest in what you life. Almost all men and a great proportion of women DO play with themselves regularly, so there's nothing wrong about that, and nothing to feel ashamaed of. IF he hasnt learned the basic skills of stimulating your clitoris agreeably, I;m surprised that he has noticed it. And if he asks again whether you play with yourself, you could reply :" OF course ! Surely YOu do, too ? " No need to get rid of the vibrator, and no need to worry about shape and size. You're normal and healhy from the sound of it.
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