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01 Mar 2004

want to let go, but cant
I have fallen in love for someone I can't have and who - although he says otherwise - is not really interessted in a steady relatinship. Although He was th one who wanted more, I was OK with just a fling, but now there is always excuses. I try not to think of him or call/ sms/mail him - but my lust is getting the better of me. I've deleted his number and e-mail address, but becoz I know it so well i just punch it in and end up sending messages. I need to get him out of my mind, but how? we have not had a chance to talk it out . I am prepared to let go, but I am scared when he comes with his sweet talk then I 'll get weak and give in to him.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Lust,
You really don't have to give in to lust or habit, or whatever this is. He sounds uncaring, and like someone who is just using you. Even if part of the relationship feels like fun, it may not be a good idea to continue. If it isn;t, then just stop. You actually can prevent yourself from messaging or calling him. You are probably already sacrificing other possibilities for far more satisfying and long-term relationships, while wasting your time with him. What is he, a call-boy ?
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