Ask an expert
Question

11 Jul 2005

Was my reaction correct
This weekend we had lunch with my family in law. I have a baby, he is about 5 months old and is a rather fussy baby and do not want to go to strangers. He does not like people who talks loudly and will cry or become freigtened when they do. I know this is normal behaviour for most babies. But my family in law is making such a big deal of this, insinuating that it is my fault as the child is not used to them. They hardly ever make time to see my child. This is not the first time this has happened. I got so emotional and started to cry. I decided that the right thing for me to do at that stage was to greet everyone , take my child and leave. Which I did.
Did I do the right thing? Or was I being rude.


Answer 372 views
Expert
CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I see nothing wrong with your reaction to the situation. Maybe your husband can explain that the child is very young, at an age when they usually don't like strangers, and that as the kid doesn't see them much, he hasn't had the chance to get used to them and comfortable with them. By not being especially considerate of the child and yourself, it is THEY who were being rude. DOn't let them get to you, and next time, explain at the start that your child is totally normal, and will take a while to get comfortable among them, and you'll be pleased if they start by being gentle with him and not talking too loud until he is relaxed among them.
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical examination, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.
Voting Booth
Have you entered our Health of the Nation survey?
Please select an option Oops! Something went wrong, please try again later.
Results
Yes
33% - 9362 votes
No
67% - 19305 votes
Vote