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06 Dec 2004

What makes us cheat?
Hi everyone, I know I might sound stupid bt I'm inlove with a married man. I didnt know that he was married until I kissed him. I 've always have this crush on him bt I kept it to myself when I discovery that he feels the same I thought why not go for him.
A week after our first date, he told me he was married.
I told him that we couldnt do it coz it will be too much forme to handle and he unbderstood. Few weeks after that we kissed and we had sex.
He's been married for 3yrs now he's got a 2yr old babe girl. Each and everyday I want him. I'm nt seeing anyone at the moment and I'm happy with him. I know I will get hurt at the end bt I'm willing to take the chance anyway.
I know innocent ppl will gat hurt here bt we are both adults and he knew the risks.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I'm not going to enter into more discussions about why it is WRONG, ethically, morally, and in terms of your own happiness and that of others, to have an ffair with a married person, and/or AS a married person. This man is a slimeball, happy to use you for some fun sex, and to cause inevitable severe pain for an innocent wife and child.
You are NOT both adults, as you are both acting like selfish little kids ; and neither of you are the innocent people who will be hurt --- it's the wife and child who don't deserve this. Be guaranteed that when a new bit of fluff enters his life, he'll cheerfully dump you and go after her. He will NEVER treat yo better than he is already treating her.
Two such immature and selfish people deserve each other, but the wife does not deserve it.
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