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30 Jul 2007

What must I do?
I have been dating my boyfriend for six years now, I love him but I am not sure if he loves me as much as he says does.

Three years ago, he had a child with another girl. I forgave him for this but now it causing a lot of problems in our relationship because he pays a lot of attention to the baby's mother even though they broke up while she was still pregnant. His excuse is that he is doing what is right for the baby, and he thinks that I hate the child. I always tell him that I love his child but its the mother that I have a problem with because she always calls him, bring lunch and cakes for him whenever she brings the child.I have discussed this with him but he feels that I am jelouse.

What worries me the most is that now we always fight and the only time we have a good time together is when we making up after the fight, and the fight again after a few days. Most of the fights are results of him not calling me when he says he will phone and not showing up for some of our appointments without giving me a appologiesing and all hje says is that he's got personal issues that he cannot discuss with me.

Now I am not sure if this relationship is worth keeping. I want to stay but a part of me is telling me to run.

Please advise me on what to do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I find it hard to belive that a guy who actually loved you, would have a child by someone else. What's loving about that ? While it's good that he continues a relationship with the child, it's understandable that you feel uneasy about how friendly he remains with the baby's mama. It sounds as though he either needs to commit seriously to you, and maybe see a relationship counsellor with you to work things out, or to set you free to move on. At present, he's having his cake and eating it too
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