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06 Aug 2007

what now..where to
I am really truly sad…..it’s like I have flu, my whole body is hurting I actually have cold shivers and I am not sick this is all just because I am very very sad.

This weekend I just gave up, I can not confront him anymore and I have tried so many things to make it work, make it better, just make it normal.

I am diagnosed with bipolar II but my husband fits the classic emotional abuser and this combination is lethal. Its been eight years now, I am on medication, but its really getting harder, he forbid me to talk to my family, he always makes sure I don’t have a lot of money or access to it, even though I work myself, he smokes illegal drugs and love to do wild sexual acts. He has broken me down to nothing and I fear I have come to the end of the road where my whole body my whole existence is giving in, breaking down and I really don’t know what to do because every time I tell him I had enough he turns the whole situation around that everything will be my fault and that he is the good one in the relationship…I am confused and feel like I am completely going to go mad.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Talk with POWA or some similar local group, about working out the best way to deal with and escape from, the abuse. It sounds as though he is wickedly tryign to make you more and more helpless and to control you. Can you perhaps plan, with the advice of POWA< to escape and stay with your family, while getting a court-order to prevent him from harrassing or threatening you any more ?
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