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12 Jul 2005

What Should I do???
2months ago I had a girl talk with one of my female colleagues and in the process she confided in me about her new bf. It happens that this new bf of hers is also a colleague and is the same guy I had just broken up with - he practically ripped my heart out juggling me with 10+ other women in the process without a care. I tried to carefully caution my her about this guy but it did not go down well with her. she was so much in love and instead turned against me and was now perceiving me as a rival. Now this guy is giving her the cold shoulder and treating her so badly, It is evident that things are not going well for her, she has lost alot of weight and has stopped taking care of herself. I have heard that she locks herself in her office and balls her eyes out, she is broken and hurting so much but she can't come and talk to me about it. Should I just keep quiet about it??? or what should I do or tell her??
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Isn't it sadly typical of the selfi-delusions of some folks in love, that they don't want to hear warnings, but want to belive in the perfection they have invented. Why not just speak quietly to her, or send her a message, saying that you tried to warn her that this was how he treats women, from your own experience, and are sorry both that she resented your advice, and that you turned out to be right about him. You can indicate that, having been through such a similar experience, you're available if she wants to chat about her feelings now, or not, as she pleases.
Pity there isn't a system for putting up "Not Wanted" posters, to warn women of guys like this !
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