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04 Feb 2004

What should I do???? Re: 6998



Its me again the one who ran off with a divorced man to Australia. Our argument has now gone to the third day.!! I cant take it anymore. When things are good they good. But as soon as I asked when is he going to tell the family he explodes?? I didnt mention it before but he has bought us a tickets to go meet his dad.(in three months) It that progression?

You cant talk to this guy from adult to adult. I find that I have to rather shut my mouth. But why should I? He is so stubborn and immature. Last night we were shouting as each other again and as usual nasty things were said. He has even called me a slut before? Ive only had 3 boyfriends and he was my third?? He is the one that had an affair? Oh and not to mention he has man handled me in the past twice. Last year. He tried it a third time but I punched him so hard(im quite tall and strong anyway) he will never try push me again.

The thing is when we argue for one day fine. But when it lasts for three days I get so drained and tired I feel Im going mad! Its hard cause Im in another country so I cant run to my folks. My sisters here but shes probably so fed up with my crap I dont tell her anymore. Sometimes I think 'am I a drama queen'? He doesnt go out drinking with the boys or anything but when we fight like this I cant help thinking he will do the same to me as he did to her? Have an affair? Ive never argued ever in previous relationships. But with this guy, Ive feel Im becoming like him. If he doesnt give in neither will I. Im starting to realise why hes divorced. Oh and we hardly go out to a bar or now and then to have a bit of a dance. When we first meet thats all we did. Im luckly I have my company car, good job. He makes me think sometimes Im the problem.

What the hell do I do cause obviously we do have good times?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

"Im starting to realise why hes divorced." That's a phrase that needs to be remembered by anyone considering an affair with a divorced man. he might have been the innocent party, but then again, he might not.
I'm puzzled that you are still seeking advice, when you seem to have broadly reahd the same conclusion that our readers have, on hearing your story. He's surely not a fit spouse for you --- emotionally abusive, immature, and lousy at problem-solving. Why do you feel compelled to stick to him ?
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