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16 Feb 2004

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Hi
What do you do when you feel like you want to talk to someone about what bothers you but then when you think about what it really is - you cant really pinpoint it?
There are several factors leading me to feel quite depressed. What do you do if these factors are every day things that you cant hide away from? Are you supposed to then just go with it or try to isolate yourself from it?
I feel normal yet abnormal. I dont know if other people also sometimes feel like this - but most times I just wonder whats going on in peoples minds. Why some people act the way they do and if they actually realise their actions?
My life is actually quite fine - no real complaints. Apart from that I have a job that I dont particularly enjoy much (yet I have a job), I cant afford to move out of the house (yet I have a roof over my head), I dont have a girlfriend (yet a loving family). dont have much friends and all such things.
Yet my emotions are telling me that I am settling for less and I am not living on my true potential.
Ok, so what I want to ask - does it sound as if I need to go visit a psychologist? I dont have alot of friends and I struggle to talk about these matters to people in general.
How much does a consultation cost in general? And how do you actually explain whats "wrong"!?

cityman
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear cityman,
What you're describing is exactly one of the good reasons for seeing a psychologist, and it isn't a problem that it's kinda hard to put the problem(s) exactly into words ---that can be part of the task you work on with your shrink. SOmetimes part of the problem is that we feel a sense of discomfort without being able to clearly identify the source, and having clarified the nature of the problem, the solution, or at least some of the solutions, may then be much easier to see. There are no likely downsides to seeing a psychologist with this sort of query, and even a few sessions may make a significant difference. Costs vary, and may well be covered by your medical aid.
Also, wth regard to your career queries, some psychologists can arrange to do vocational psychological testing, to clarify for you both your interests and your aptitudes, and see how they match up to prospective jobs.
Medical drugs, life-saving though they can be in the right situations, are not what would be helpful in the situation you describe ; and of course social drugs only help you to get more comprehensively lost, even when some provide the occasional illusion of enhancing insight.
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