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01 Dec 2005

What would YOU do?
What would you do if your father and mother-in-law never showed interest in your hobbies but when their own daughter does the same thing you did, they make a HUGE fuss? Would you go visit if their daughter (who is 8 years your junior) is always rude to you and nobody does anything about it but if you make ONE little wrong move, they are on to like flies on shit? What would you do if even you husband took their sides? He has promised over and over to stick up for me but he never does. Every tie I ask him about it, he says that I never go there so I never give him the chance to stick up for me. My in laws complain about not seeing me but they know full well why I don't want to go there. When we started dating, my hubby's sister first starting copying everything I did and then I got irritated and a bit nasty (I was wrong for that) but she holds a grudge and has never been nice to me since then. She sticks her nose in our relationship and I can't take it anymore. I HATE when my hubby gets involved in all her problems. She is VERY unpopular in school and I feel that now we are married and it's his parents responsability to srt her issues out. He must stay out of it. My family let me handle my own problems and I am a better person for it. Advice? What would YOU do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

No, it sounds as though you are giving them far, far too much power over you --- over what you do and over how you feel. Wht don't you and your husband make other, true friends. Remember the little boy at school who was asked to define family, and he said "They're people who come to dinner, but who aren't our friends."
Let them do as they please, you don't have to let them get to you ; ignore it, as you would a dog barking
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