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19 Nov 2004

Where/how do I start dealing with this?
I feel though this year is starting to catch up on me bigtime, and its not a good feeling. This year I moved house, graduated, started a new job, got married, lost my father, got overworked, had health problems, and am not enjoying my new job, plus seriously searching for a house to buy, and experiencing temporary financial problems. I've been fine until about a month ago, but by now have lost interest in everything I usually enjoy doing, have withdrawn from my social life to a large extent, and am really starting to have trouble facing my dad's death. Obviously I need help, but can't afford a psychologist. Can you recommend a self-help book that I can read? or how else do I start dealing with this past year? I think I'm edging on depression, and its also impacting on my husband (who's very supportive).

Thanks in advance.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

There's actually a load of research showing not only that stress affects our lives, but that if you add up the scores for all the streesful events we face within a year ( and even something like winning a lottery is highly stressful ) then when the total score goes over a certain amount, our chances of developing a physical or psych illness are significantly higher. Obviously some such events are beyond our control, but to the extent that we can control at least the timing of some of the others, we can usefully try to avoid adding too many of them within one year.
Sounds like a growing Depression is possible, and that counselling would help --- ceck what might be available from a reachable medical school Dept of Psychology, or your local state hospital. And if the depression is becoming significant, your GP might be able to help with an assessment and some medication.
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