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04 Jul 2005

which way forward
thanks for your reply 28/06. I wish I knew what the physcologist are trying to achieve, as he was also the one suggesting my husband must leave the house and we must separate, also that my husband should have no contact with me. When I confronted the physcologist about this, he merely answered that my husband needs to find himself. I received a sms message this weekend that he wants his freedom and I must please let him go peacefully. He wants to collect his last few belongings at home. All this is very confusing. I have never heard of somebody destroying a marriage like this, rather then trying to councill both parties in saving the marriage. The mere fact that we were not allowed to communicate with each other, only sms occassionally, makes this even more weird. I am starting to doubt this all but how do I get the bottom line?
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01 Jan 0001

I'm still puzzled. if that psychologist was so sure your husband needed to find himself ( what a cliche !) shou;dn't he have given him a map and compass before turning him loose ? I must agree with you that the psychologist's role in apparently breaking up your marriage and making no attempt to save it or even to properly explore your viewpoint, sounds deeply peculiar. You might even consider reporting him with a complaint to the medical Council / Health professions Council, though that takes an awful long time to get anywhere. I presume what you say of the shrink's instructions you heard from the shrink, and not only from your husband ?
And see a good lawyer and make sure, as none of this is your fault, that you are dealt with fairly in any divorce that might follow, and that you get all that might be owing to you. I don't suppose, by any chance, the psychologist might have had some personal interest in your husband ?
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