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24 Jul 2006

WHY am i so unhappy?
I have been in this relationship for 2 years, living together for 1 year.

I work so does he. I don't pay rent, water etc because I live with him. He provides for me when I am short in a month. He's cold, always far away, he does not talk much and love to him is having sex, which I do agree is great, but before and after I do not exist.

As he say's he's happy if he has a plate of food, I look after the kids and give him sex when he wants it. It's that easy for him. I need love, I need to be touched, I need to be romanced I need hugs and kisses. I feel alone. I've spoken to him he say's it's because I am a bitch that he's like he is. I try to make sarmies, have food on his lap when he's home, serve him and and foot, give bj's when requested and when not, I try my best but I just do not get what I need.

I've bought a book on relationships and read it together with him he keeps on telling me what I do wrong.

Im at a loss as to what to do, right now I just feel so sad and unhappy. He seems so very happy and could go on and on. I can't I need more. But he's saying it's my own fault that I do not get more?
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01 Jan 0001

Sounds like he doesn't expect much from relationships, other than food and sex. But it sounds as though he's using you and expecting you to run aroud to please him, without feeling much need to please you. How big of him to read the relationships book and tell you where you are going wrong --- has he yet noticed where HE is going wrong, too ? He's blaming you for there being nothing more in the relationship, though that cabn't be solely your fault. Would he join you to see a relationship counsellor ( eg through FAMSA ) for a few sessions ?
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