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20 Jul 2005

why cant I get angry
I’m not sure if this is a problem but its affecting my relationships and friendships.
I don’t know how to put this but let me make an example. About three months ago my b/f and I were just chatting and we got to a time we talked about our relationship if its serious or if its just a fling (to get through our tertiary life) we decided its serious and he said he needs to confess something before we go on- he told me he kissed his brothers wife last festive season it didn’t bother me at all not even a little but now I feel like he cheated on me. The problem is with every situation this is how it gets- someone tell me something and it doesn’t bother me then 3months later I start feeling the hurt and pain of what I was told back then, my dad will do something like punish me for something I didn’t do and I wont mind but 3months later I ask him “why did you do that”.
A friend of mine passed away last year in June I didn’t go to the funeral and didn’t see any problem with that and then during the festive season I started crying for my friend, I miss her! This is how its always been, I never feel pain immediately but if something exiting happens I feel exited immediately. The thing is when that thing happens or when I hear it I laugh instead of crying or something.
Is there something wrong with me? Because right now I’m angry with my Boss for something he did in January and I started crying and telling him why I’m angry he is busy laughing even now he even bought me a lolli pop because I remind him of his grand child. Why cant I feel angry or hurt when the stuff happen, why do I have to wait for 3-6 months to feel anything!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds much less like a n inability to get unhappy, than like a bad habit of brooding over past events. Gee, at the festive Season all sorts of people kiss all sorts of people --- that's nothing remotely like cheating, nor anything to get upset about. I doubt that you "have" to wait 3-6 months to feel and respond, but this seems to be a habit you have formed, and can change, especially with the help of a counsellor.
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