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13 Jul 2005

Why does he do this to me?
My fiance' and I have been together for a year. Things have been kind of rocky the past couple of months. The past couple of weeks, he has been coming home late and "playing golf" on the weekends. He switches his phone off all the time when he is at home. And when he comes home from work, he smells like booze and says that he had one drink at work. This behaviour is suspicious. I know that this is totally worng and I had no right to do it, but I looked inhi wallet and found a bill for Teasers for over R1000. Most of it was spent on the girls there. He moaned at me for going through his stuff which I agree was wrong of me, but he has been making me feel so insecure and treating me like rubbish and that is what drove me to do it. He says that he goes there very often because he does not want to come home because I make him unhappy. And that he does not get any action at home and that is why he goes there. Which is not true, he never wants to have sex with me. I feel so cheated an betrayed and he said that it is none of my business what he does and he can do as he likes. I feel so dirty and cheap. I come home every night and make sure he has ironed clothes for work and that he has food on the table when he comes home, and this is what I get.
He has been treating me like rubbish for a long time now and cannot take it anymore. I can't eat, I get terrible migraines, my work is suffering, I cry all the time. I want to move out and the only place I can go to, is y friends house and she lives far away. I got a new job and start in a months time and the company is close to where she stays, so I can only move in with her once I have started my new job. What am I going to do for the next month? I am going to the doctor today to go and get some anti-depressants.
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01 Jan 0001

Work your hardest to persuade him to join you in relationship counselling ( cheaper than Cheaters !) and this could greatly benefit both of you. And by all means separate for at least a time. If he's unhappy in the relationship, he's a fool to go to Cheaters rather than get involved with you and a counsellor to set things right
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