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20 Jul 2005

Why does this happen to me??
I have always been trendy and classy since I was a little girl. I have an eye for the finner things in life and live my life to the fullest without fearing that people will gossip or say nasty stuff. Some of the girls in my college envied me and there were those who were afraid to associate with me due to their insecurities which made them feel that are inferior and others just felt that I was a show off. I am that kind of person who hurts very easily and will withdraw from you and shut you out of my life totally if you hurt me. I believe in being sentitive to other people's feelings no matter how poor or low I perveive them to be and I would never deliberately hurt other anyone. I am now grown up and still getting same kind of reaction from my colleagues/people. What I am trying to figure out is why people tend to take it so badly when I withdraw from them such that they take to back stabbing me, writing anonymous malicious emails about me, bad mouth about me and do nasty things to me yet they are the ones who hurt/wronged me in the first place!!! my ex bf is even going round warning the girls I talk to, to stop associating with me because according to him, I am bad influence.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

There could well be problems not with who or what you are, but with how you present yourself, how you make others perceive you, and counselling could help to sort this out. rather than withdrawing so eagerly from people, maybe you need to stick around and learn from the conflicts you encounter.
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