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05 Aug 2008

Winning a fight, but loosing the battle
Hi CS,

i have such good intend when it comes to my child. I want only the best for her. I am however, loosing the plot completely.

She is 13 years old, I am trying to discipline her in the correct ways. It only takes her to press a few wrong buttons for me to loose my temper completely and before I know it, I am the one who needs to appologise.

Today I feel so terrible. Last night got out of hand...again.
I do not physical harm her as such, I would say the things that just fly out of my mouth is horrible.

If I think of all the harm I have done, breaking her down, making her feel like nothing. I just do not know how much of my child is left inside her.

All the things I am supposed to protect her from, I seem to do to her. And I do not even mean to harm her. But I do.

I do not know if I making sound worse than what it is. To me, there is not excuse for what I am doing. I am not leaving her without food, or clothes, or hitting her blue &  purple. But shouting, screaming, throwing things around, making her feel worthless.....is so much worse.....
Today I dont feel that I am worthy to be called a mother. I am a monster. I thought about sending her away, just to protect her from me. She is such a lovely little girl, who just want &  need love. I dont understand why I feel it so much, yet am so incapable of showing it. I feel very much she is better of without me. I am destroying her little life!

Is it too late to fix what I have done to her? will she live with these emotional scars for the rest of her life?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

See a personal counsellor to explore your triggers and how to control your temper, and to learn how to discipline your child clmly and effectively and without nasty words. You can put this right --- and only you can put it right in the best way. But get expert help to do it efficiently and lovingly
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