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14 Dec 2005

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My husband keeps a gun under his pillow. He is bedridden and says it his way to make himself feel safe. He is alone at home most of the time. Not only were our neighbours on the one side were highjacked and a couple of weeks later they were burgled, the neighbours on ou other other side recently also had a burglary. I don’t want to make an issue out of it and tell him that I rather see keeping the gun undere his pillow as a potential method for him to end his life. I don't want to give him ideas. I distribute his medication so that isn’t a problem at least. He takes antidepressants but I think it isn’t enough to control his depression. It isn’t possible to take him to a doctor. It is difficult to describe to any doctor telephonically how he is really feeling. I’ve managed to get him the antidepressants, but the doctors are hesitant to increase the dose. The time is running out because I’m going to hand the gun in at the end of the month. I detest guns. What should I do? He is very strongwilled and I’m no match for him. Whatever happens I will feel responsible.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sorry to ehar of this D, you have been placed in an awful position. In the crime-ridden state of our society, and with the legendary incompetence of ou ploice and justice systems, it makes sense for a bed-ridden person to want to have a weapon available for self-defence. But of course when that person is depressed and a suicide risk, the presence of such a weapon is a serious risk to his life, too.
FIO's response makes a lot of sense --- one has a natural and laudable urge to protect, but also needs to respect his own right to make his own decisions about his life. In the end, I agree with FIO. Would an enhanced home protection burglar alarm system help, too ?
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