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14 Jul 2006

Wow Lapdog! and other stuff...
Howdy Lapdog! I cant understand why anyone would have a problem with you on these boards because I certainly have never!
Where have you been? I need to know from you how the dope is affecting you, they say it can make people feel depressed. Why do you need to stop so bad not that I dont want you to. Why is it difficult to stop? Have you tried thinking of other positive things when you feel like taking a drag? Why not start exercise it will get you high and you will naturally start caring more about your body.
Perhaps your habit is brought on by boredom? Perhaps it fills something you dont have in your life, let's fill that void with something else shall we? Nice car! I care for you too and I know that you will find happiness with all the support of your family. :)
Hi cybershrink thanks for reading my really huge last post (the letter thingy) well I sent it and I'll try see both the docs soon.

Someone once said to me that people do things either out of love or fear. Is that true? Imagine living a life completely out of fear. "I will marry this person because I fear being lonely. I want to be a lawyer because I fear my parents will not respect me if I don't. I want to make lots of money because I'm frightened people won't like me." Imagine living out a life of fear! It must be a complete waste of time.
Then there is love, should I live my life out of love? "I do my job because I enjoy it. I married my wife because she is my best friend." My shrink agrees with me that in order to love you have to be a bit selfish. Why do people on this planet only love someone when they get something from them? Why dont they love people anyway? I dont love you anymore because: insert selfish comment here.

My shrink says that she would not love her husband anymore if he killed someone but would still love her kids if they killed someone. Weird? When is it reasonable to love or not to love somebody? haha. Oh come on now this is nonsense! When to give the carrot or the stick as they say. I cannot tell who I love anymore because would I be then saying it because I get something from that person. Man I dont get this planet. Is the most important thing in the world love? Is that what everybody wants? Nobody wants to give love to a child molestor because it does nothing for them right? I hate this fickle disgusting planet! I dont wish to be a parasite. Is it a case of give me love or give me death? Gary Zukav says the soul is pure love and that it is only the personality that needs to hurt. Interesting. What wishful thinking is this? A soul. That is the same wishful thinking that perhaps there is a God. Don't worry kids you have a soul and it is pure love, you are love. haha. I dont know if it's true or not but it's fun stuff!
You can die from too much love, yeah, too much chocalate cake! Do you think there is a person on this planet with no love from anywhere? I wonder if it is working for them? What I do know is there are plenty of people on this planet who get a kick out of hate, so what's the flamin' difference sir?
Thanks for your help!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hello slayer,
Look forward to eharing how the letter thingy works out.
I don't know that love or fear are the ONLY motivations for people's choices and actions --- many other less noble ones come into play, too, including greed and jealousy, among others !
And on the point you discuss with lapdog --- if after all of these years of evolution, we still do have emotions, including love, despite their frequent discomfort and inconvenience --- evolutionary theory would suggest they must have a greater value than this, in order to survive.
Hope the results of the operation turn out to be excellent, now that you've been properly grooved. It was my left arm that got mangled in the accident last year, and was so difficult to fix. Still left with a cotnracture after so many months in a sling --- so it can't fully straighten, and rotation has some limitations --- can't scratch my back with that hand ! And after a large area of anaesthesia / numbness across the arm, now just a small patch near the elbow where the skin has no feeling. So much for any plans to retire and become a great violinist !
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