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08 Dec 2005

xmas function - sexual harrasment by boss
I really need some help here!

Yesterday was our Xmas function. Due to financial constraints we had to hold it on the premises. I intended joining later as I had a project that I had a deadline on and wanted to finish first.

About 2 hours into the party as I was walking down the corridor to the boardroom I met my boss coming up the corridor. He said that he was on his way to fetch me as he wanted to discuss something with me.

As I have never spoken more than 4 words to him in the past I was suitably cautious when he told me to accompany him to his office but went anyway (just in case I was being unduely paraniod)

In the office he told me to sit down while he went to sit on his sofa. He started rambling on and I could see that he was quite pissed. Suddenly the man starts telling me that he is so turned on by me etc. and all that sh*t. I get up and go for the door. While trying to open it I realize that he ficked the latch. I am quite panicky and fummbling with the lock.

And what does he do..... He exposes his penis and jacks off right there. I was so shocked I was speachless. At least I got the door open and managed to get out.

I left for home immeditly.

This morning its business as usual!? No apology no nothing....

So what do I do? It isn't just the jack off thing. The things he said about being turned on by my type of woman etc.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

IS there an HR department ? If so, discuss these facts with them, and consider the option of making a formal complaint, and at least putting it on record. As he was apparently very drunk at the time, he may not really remember what happened. But a complaint is the only way to make sure that this sort of thing doesn't happen again, to you or to anyone else in the company. I like FIO's suggestion of asking for a written apology and a guarantee of protection from harassment in the job again. Consulting a lawyer is also a good idea, as is consulting the CCMA.
Ask the immoral person in HR to put her decision, her comments, and the announcement of promotion, in writing. Insist that you receive a response in writing to your complaint, not merely something verbal which she can deny later on.
.......'s comments are experienced and sensible. And her (2) points about bypassing him if practical, is sensible.
Shooter's suggestion of getting a sworn statement in writing and witnessed is also sound
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